Share your story.

An important part of The Accidental Sisterhood® is sharing. We invite you to share your story to help other women recognize their issues and to seek treatment. Tell us what led you to address your pelvic floor health issues and how you won the battle. Your story or your experience might inspire action in other women nationwide.

 

Only your first name will be used when posting your story.

 

 

Meet Annette, age 65

For years, Annette went to great lengths to hide her pelvic floor health issues. She sought treatment but continued to experience problems. It wasn't until she met Dr. Bologna that she was able to get a handle on a very embarrassing and frustrating issue.

 

Here is her story…

Ten years ago, Annette began to experience the constant need to go to the restroom. Often she wasn’t quick enough to avoid accidents. Not knowing what was going on, nor willing to take a chance that she might not make it to the restroom in time, she began to withdraw from the things she loved most in life. Shopping became a hassle and traveling was nearly out of the question. Even a simple trip to the grocery store became a nail-biting experience.

 

"I am an expert at knowing where all the ‘good’ public restrooms are around town," smiles Annette.

 

Annette was not alone. Nearly 34 million women suffer from a similar experience.

 

As time went on, even a good nights sleep was interrupted six to 10 times with constant trips to the restroom. She was exhausted and frustrated.

 

Six months ago, on advice from a friend, Annette sought help from The Accidental Sisterhood and contacted Dr. Bologna. After a series of tests Dr. Bologna suggested that she would be a good candidate for InterStim® Therapy. Put simply, InterStim is a pacemaker for the bladder. Implanted into the buttocks cheek in an outpatient setting, it is a tiny device that regulates the bladder by sending mild electrical pulses to a nerve located in the lower back.

 

"I'm thrilled with the results," Annette says. "My overactive symptoms have all but disappeared. I have regained by life."

 

Meet Kitty, age 78

During a Sisterhood Health Forum, I knew I needed to seek treatment. After digesting all the information from the presentation, I said to myself, "I need to stop living life like this and take action, soon.” I am a former health educator and I still had a lot of questions; how does this work, how long is the recovery and is it even effective, long term?

 

A few weeks after attending The Sisterhood Health Forum, I took the first step on my road to recovery. I made an appointment with Dr. Bologna. I was grateful that I did this, all my questions were answered, and I felt more comfortable moving forward.

 

I no longer wanted to live with a prolapse bladder. I had the surgery shortly after meeting with Dr. Bologna in the office. I’m so glad I did this and thankful I attend The Sisterhood event.

 

My advice to women is, “if you are struggling with prolapse or other pelvic floor issues, it’s time to take care of them. Let’s face it we aren’t getting any younger.”

 

Meet Emmy, age 60

I experienced stress incontinence for the first time at the young age of 13, when me and my girlfriends were jumping on a trampoline. Over the years my problem progressively got worse. I had to cross my legs when coughing or sneezing for fear I would leak. I finally reached a point during my struggle where I knew I had to do something about it. I just had enough, I was tired of living and dealing with it.

My first solution was to see a urologist, after taking medication for several years and I was still leaking. They talked about my next step which was to have a pessery put in. That was a success but I wanted something more permanent. So I had a mini-arch procedure done and I haven’t looked back since. I am just thrilled with the results.

My husband was my biggest cheerleader. After talking about a lifetime of incontinence he told me, “there is such a dignity factor, you need to do what is best for you.” Needless to say my husband supported me every step of the way!

My experience was so positive, there was no pain, no discomfort, no discharge, the recovery was not long, I was up moving around the same day. I’m overjoyed that finally, I can laugh without leaking!
 

Meet Barbara, age 75

At 25, I began my struggle with my pelvic floor; now at 75, I finally found the solution to my problem!

I gave birth to three children and a set of twins. After the twins were born I started seeing a OB doctor, and had a pessery put in, that didn’t last long.

After, having the pessery put in I started seeing a urologist, I had so many tests done. I wasn’t sure what to do next.  I decided to go for acupuncture, this worked for a while. But then it started affecting my rectum. Let me tell you when your leaks turn into tidal waves and then it starts effecting your rectum, you know you’ve had it.

My daughter came to me and said, “Mom, you need to see Dr. Bologna.” So I scheduled the appointment right away. When I met him I just laid it out plain and simple, “It seems, I’ve tried everything under the sun and yes, I’ve had small successes but nothing lasts. I’ve been tethered to a bathroom my entire life and tired of living this way.”

And he gave me the answer, Medtronic InterStim Therapy. I had the test done and didn’t question it, I knew this was the answer I had been looking for, for so many years.

Before the actual device is implanted the patient must go through a series of tests. After just 2 days I was no longer wearing the diapers and pads I used to wear. A week later I had the device implanted. The results have been wonderful.

Thanks to InterStim Therapy and the work of Dr. Bologna; I’m happy to say, I am finally wearing my silk panties again!  
 

Meet Betsy, age 32

I'm a full-time surgical nurse and a mother of two, so my bladder problems always took a back seat to the other priorities in my life. It wasn't a big deal, really. Sure, I dreaded the long workdays in surgery when I didn't have easy access to a bathroom, but I was willing to accept the occasional leak and constant urge to go as annoying inconveniences. Then, one day I was out jogging and my little leaks turned into Niagara Falls! The loss of control was so disconcerting; I finally decided to talk to Dr. Bologna about it. He started me on The Sisterhood Plan immediately.

At first, the Behavior Modification part was key for me. Within two weeks, my urgency and frequency improved. I noticed that coffee made my urgency symptoms worse, but if I drank more water, I didn't feel the need to go as often. In the meantime, I committed to my pelvic floor exercises and, in just one month, my husband noticed a difference. We were in the bedroom having 'relations' and he asked if something was 'different' down there. The next day, I went jogging and stayed dry all the way. I was so excited; I had to tell Dr. Bologna about it. And he smiled as if he knew it all along.
 

Meet Anna, age 62

My husband and I have been looking forward to retiring for quite some time. We planned to golf and travel once we had more time on our hands. But then, suddenly, he became sick and the daily reality of caring for him quickly replaced my daydreams of life on the golf course.

 

One day, just before he got back on his feet, I was helping him out of the bathtub when I felt something "pop" inside myself. I noticed a pressure in my vagina and I was concerned, but I thought it would just go away eventually. I waited, and even tried intercourse with my husband. He told me he felt there was 'something in the way,' which only increased my anxiety.

 

So I made an appointment with my Gynecologist. He told me I had a cystocele... that my bladder had lost the support it needed and was bulging against the wall of my vagina. He called it a prolapsed organ. I had never felt so vulnerable.


The good news was I had options. I could wear a pessary to support the bladder from within my vagina, or I could undergo surgery to re-support the bladder in its place. A pessary always has to be removed before intercourse and I didn't want to bother, so I opted for surgery.  The operation seemed complicated to me, requiring the addition of a sling under my bladder for support, but I was in and out of the hospital in less than 24 hours!

 

In weeks, we were out doing all the things we had hoped to do golfing, traveling and playing with our grandchildren. We even resumed the intimacy we've shared for more than 40 years, which has become just like it was before menopause!

 

Meet Jeanette, age 41

My name is Jeanette Geer. I’m a wife, mother and small business owner… and an expert on pelvic health education. This is the story of how my life took that last, unexpected turn.

 

At the age of 34, having just delivered my first baby boy, I landed in a urologist’s office. The sign on the front door read “CONTINENCE CENTER.” At first, I was mortified. Yet sitting in the waiting room, I noticed women of all ages, from 20 to 60, in the group around me. I certainly wasn’t alone. Maybe many of these women had shared similar embarrassing moments in life.

 

I was the girl at the slumber parties who’d laugh so hard, I’d pee my pants.  I was the annoying friend on the road trip who’d insist on stopping at every rest area. The first time I realized I had a serious problem was at the gym, attempting a “post baby” workout, and finding that even the simplest exercises caused a leak. It only worsened from there… and suddenly I found myself wearing dark clothes and a pad for protection from certain embarrassment.

 

Finally, I confided in a friend, who referred me to Dr. Bologna. In the exam room, Dr. B. (as I now call him) said, “Jeanette, one in three women suffers from some form of pelvic floor health issue.”  He asked me questions about my lifestyle and experience. He informed me that wine and ice tea (my two favorite beverages) were bladder irritants. He explained that incontinence could be hereditary. He asked about my son and the delivery. He made it clear – the deck was clearly stacked against me. Surgery was recommended unless I planned to have additional children (and I did).

 

I left the office with a prescription for pelvic floor physical therapy and a pessary. A pessary is a rubber ring that is inserted vaginally to support and lift the urethra and other prolapsed organs. It could easily be removed for intercourse and tampon use.

 

The pessary kept me dry and bought me the time I needed to await surgery after the birth of baby boy number two. This delivery was much easier, but my fate was sealed. The pessary no longer worked and surgery was scheduled.

 

Dr. B. explained that he would use a mesh sling to lift my urethra. The surgery took less than 30 minutes. The recovery was a piece of cake. To this day, I have not leaked and road trips are not filled with multiple stops.

Shortly after surgery, I received a call from Dr. Bologna. He reminded me of my ambitions for renaming his practice while under anesthesia (!). He agreed with my drugged, (read: honest), opinions that The Continence Center was a terrible name. He wanted to discuss it further, along with another big idea – his goal to write an unbiased book that would educate women on pelvic floor health.

 

Having experienced it all firsthand, I couldn’t wait to get started. I assembled my marketing team and met with Dr. B. to learn more. He told us that he had helped thousands of women through his practice, but it wasn’t enough. He wanted to make a positive impact on the lives of millions by helping women understand how to prevent and treat incontinence-related issues.

 

The Accidental Sisterhood program was born. Not your typical “incontinence book,” The Accidental Sisterhood is fun, sassy, and, most importantly, informative. The Accidental Sisterhood book provides women with both prevention and treatment options. Couple that with a discreet journaling tool, a DVD and a supplementary exercise band… and it’s the perfect at-home resource for any woman who is seeking prevention or treatment to overactive bladder, incontinence or both.

 

To promote the program, Dr. B. and our team took The Accidental Sisterhood on the road, conducting nationwide women's health forums. Today, we’ve educated over 10,000 women with our health forums. I’m always amazed when I talk to a woman and she shares that she has been leaking or living in a bathroom for 20 years. It’s so sad. We don’t know what we don’t know, which is why I’ve dedicated a huge portion of my life to providing this education to women.  

 

I’ve heard from so many how our work has made a difference in their lives. But I can’t help but think of the 35 million women in the United States who are suffering from these issues. We still have a lot of work to do. Leaking is not normal and, more often than not, it can be corrected, if not dramatically improved.

 

It is my goal to get women to talking. It’s so important that women talk with their friends and physicians to get solutions. I’m proof that leaking and frequent trips to the bathroom are not inconveniences that anyone should have to live with.

 

Jeanette Geer is the mother of three school-aged children, the owner of Wonderworks Advertising and director of development for The Accidental Sisterhood.